Other than New Year’s Eves, birthdays are when I’m most reflective. Continue reading
I have recently found out that a very good and dear friend of mine, who recently became a mum of a beautiful baby, have regarded me as “a mum who’s doing it all” and how she has unnecessarily comparing her current life to mine. Continue reading
How is it that it’s mid-year now? This year has gone so fast, and have treated me well so far 🙂 How are you guys doing?
If you haven’t noticed, Continue reading
Miss V was recently fortunate enough to be given some Mamia food pouches to try out. It was such great timing as Continue reading
Thank you everyone for your comments, PMs and texts with your suggestions from my post last night. I will try all of them and let you know how I go. My plan for today is to write down everything that is bothering me and what my point of attack is for each. I have a suspicion that the list is not going to be big and that I am probably just exaggerating them.
I thought I would post about something different and light today. I don’t know why I haven’t because I love skincare 🙂
My mum instilled into me from a very young age that maintenance is important when it comes to skincare. She started me off with Ultima II when I was a young teenager, then moved on to Clinique. When I went home to Indo, she would take me with her to a spa, get facials complete with painful extraction process. During the years, I would try many many different skincare, getting sucked into all the marketing and free samples. I love those mini mini packaging!
Thanking the good genes from her side of the family, I have never had problems with acne – I get the occasional pimple here and there, but nothing too major. Not even when I was a teenager. My mum had severe pregnancy acne when she was carrying my brother, and I was worried when I was pregnant with Little E. Thankfully, I never got it, instead, I had the much-worshipped pregnancy “glow”.
In saying all this, everyone has problem-areas. Mine is blackheads on my nose, largish pores, freckles and dry patches. Prior to my pregnancy, I had dry skin, with peeling dead skin. I now have “normal” skin, on the err of oily – pregnancy hormones are weird!
Actually, while I was pregnant, I changed most things that would expose me to unnecessary chemicals. I reverted back to old school vinegar and bicarb for house cleaning, I went to plant-based skin products and I was on clean-eating diet.
My skin is very sensitive to my diet. You’d be able to tell instantly that I haven’t been watching what I eat because my skin will be greasy and weird shade of gross. Usually this happens during the holidays or periods of sad.
Anyway, I am pretty happy with my simple skincare regime now. It doesn’t take long to do and it maintained my skin in a pretty-good condition (ie. Not oily/dry, healthy coloured and no pimples).
Now, if only I know how to get rid of my freckles, as much as Mr E said he loves them. I so envy girls with porcelain skin 🙂 I have thought about getting some microdermabrasion sessions, but I’m scared of the pain and risk being more sun-sensitive.
What’s your skincare regime?
Like I have said previously, I believe in fate. In my moments of feeling inadequate and low of self-confidence, I was given the opportunity to do three free life coaching sessions with Butterfly Dawn. How could I say no to that? 🙂
I was able to relate and open up pretty quickly to Sarah. I guess through her experience, she would know how to put people’s mind at ease. In my first session with her, we discussed my feeling of inadequacy as a mum and what I could do to improve my self-confidence. It was in this session that she reminded me to do my daily Gratitude list again. We discussed my childhood and how it affected me now, and I wouldn’t say it was a breakthrough, but it was close to it. I was not expecting any immediate result, however, after talking to her and doing my lists for a week, I could feel my confidence increasing.
On our second session, we discussed my constant feeling of guilt, especially when I get annoyed or frustrated at Little E. It is always my paranoia and fear that as soon as I catch myself feeling even the slightest of anger, I would turn into my mother. I really do not want that to happen, and so I would feel guilty for being angry/frustrated/annoyed. It was not healthy, as I would instead, internalised it. Again, Sarah was able to put my mind and worries at ease, and the words she said to me during that session would forever soothe my worry – “you cannot blame yourself for what someone else is frustrated about themselves”. I am grateful for those words.
We didn’t really discussed any more of my worries on our third sessions as, amazingly that day, I had felt peace. For a very long time, I have been troubled. I had difficulties in getting to sleep at night, even when Little E has started sleeping through till the morning. However, between the opportunities I had talking to Sarah, and the daily lists that I kept doing, I felt content and peaceful. Obviously, the road to being a better me and coming to terms with my childhood/family-situation is still very long. However, I know that I am already on the right path and I can see light at the end of the tunnel.
Unfortunately, I won’t be continuing my sessions with Sarah past the free sessions. As she is located in Victoria, we had been doing these sessions over the phone. It was very hard to be 100% concentrating on what we’re doing for the full hour (or more), as Little E would either be crying or needing my attention. I would prefer to have my coach in front of me in person, or when I have time for myself during the day, which I cannot see in the near future.
Regardless, I am thankful for the opportunity that I did have with Sarah. Like I have said above, I feel better about myself already and I know that what I am doing so far for my son, is exactly what he needs from me as his mother. What happened to me as I was growing up and the example set by my mother will need a lot of work to be done, but I know I am on my way to “freedom”.
If any of you are interested in doing life coaching, please do contact Sarah on her Facebook Page.